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may no one put asunder
Reflections, inspiration, and memorable ceremonies
getting to “I do”
The goal of any legal wedding—and a decent number of other commitment ceremonies—is to seal the deal with "I do" or other language that clearly states, "Yes, I will marry you." How we get to that point of the wedding, what comes before and after, and all the rest is,...
Choosing your married names in New York
Legal marriage is a moment when changing one's name is relatively easy—but there can be limits on that privilege. vintage wedding certificate (source: Wikimedia Commons) In New York, it's actually possible to change one's name simply by changing it. Here's what's...
When privacy about your wedding is a priority
Your privacy is more important than business promotion. If you need to keep pictures and video of your ceremony off the internet, that's okay. Weddings in the Gunks is a ministry of marriage, but it's a ministry that is run like a business. That's why permission to...
Sand ceremonies and earth ceremonies as part of your wedding
Sand ceremonies are a beautiful act of unity, with sand from more than one container being combined in much the same way that our lives are combined in marriage. Some of my wedding clients want to celebrate the individuality that continues even when lives are deeply...
Jumping the broom
Like many modern wedding traditions, jumping the broom has many stories about its origin and purpose, and it's a ceremony that holds different meaning for different people who do it. The practice may have developed independently in Wales and the American South, and...
Write your own vows with this rule of threes
Writing your own wedding vows is a very romantic idea, but it's not for everyone. Some folks freeze up at the thought of writing anything creative at all, some get scared at the sight of a blank page or screen, and there are also those from whom words flow like water....