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may no one put asunder
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Should I hire a wedding officiant, or ask a friend to officiate my wedding?
The first wedding I ever officiated was for family members, and it was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. The second wedding I officiated was for one of my oldest friends. After each ceremony, I felt like a minor celebrity myself. I'd made the magic...
How to get a marriage license in New York
To get a license to marry in the state of New York, you have to apply for it in person—both of you, as New York law limits the number of spouses to one. As of this writing, there are no other options. This can be done at the office of any town or city clerk in the...
Officiating your poly commitment ceremony
If you're in a polyamorous relationship, taking the next step is more complicated. Given that everything is a bit more complicated in a polycule, you may be uniquely prepared for this challenge. Marriage, as defined in the United States, is a legal relationship...
Stefana crowns in weddings
A poignant way to represent what changes during marriage is to exchange stefana on the heads of the couple. This is a unity ceremony that touches on the additional roles and responsibilities being placed upon those who are being wed. Widely used in Greek orthodox...
Warming the rings
The practice of warming rings at a wedding is said to have Irish roots. The basic form involves the bands being passed among some or all of the guests, who physically warm them with their hands while also imbuing them with positive hopes and wishes for the couple...
What shall you be called you during your wedding?
Your wedding should reflect your values: who you are, what communities you belong to, and who you stand for are all part of those values. An aspect that doesn't get as much attention is how the officiant addresses you during the ceremony, as well as at its conclusion....