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may no one put asunder
Reflections, inspiration, and memorable ceremonies
Honoring your beloved dead in your wedding ceremony
Weddings can be bittersweet. There's likely going to be a lot of happiness, and looking to the future; it can also be a day to remember loved ones who didn't live to attend in body. Acknowledging those special people who passed on before your special day can help...
the Scottish tradition of drinking from the quaich
The unity ceremony of drinking from a quaich carries deep and poignant symbolism with it. A quaich is a two-handled cup traditionally made from wood, but many modern versions are metal. While any beverage may be consumed from a quaich, it is most strongly associated...
getting to “I do”
The goal of any legal wedding—and a decent number of other commitment ceremonies—is to seal the deal with "I do" or other language that clearly states, "Yes, I will marry you." How we get to that point of the wedding, what comes before and after, and all the rest is,...
Choosing your married names in New York
Legal marriage is a moment when changing one's name is relatively easy—but there can be limits on that privilege. vintage wedding certificate (source: Wikimedia Commons) In New York, it's actually possible to change one's name simply by changing it. Here's what's...
When privacy about your wedding is a priority
Your privacy is more important than business promotion. If you need to keep pictures and video of your ceremony off the internet, that's okay. Weddings in the Gunks is a ministry of marriage, but it's a ministry that is run like a business. That's why permission to...
Sand ceremonies and earth ceremonies as part of your wedding
Sand ceremonies are a beautiful act of unity, with sand from more than one container being combined in much the same way that our lives are combined in marriage. Some of my wedding clients want to celebrate the individuality that continues even when lives are deeply...