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may no one put asunder
Reflections, inspiration, and memorable ceremonies
Pets in your wedding
Do you have non-human family members who are going to be part of your special day? Many of the couples getting wed in or around the Gunks lately have pets in their lives. Cats and dogs especially were part of the pandemic experience, and became part of our lives....
Vows for a second marriage
As someone who has been married twice, I fully understand the angst that might be felt when preparing to tie the knot again. Whether your prior marriage ended due to death or decision, a lot of complicated feelings can arise. It's may be helpful to work through those...
Weddings can be as colorful as you desire
In the western world, white is the go-to color choice for anyone getting married in a dress. It's hard to sort out clickbait from reliable sources when it comes to wedding history, but it seems clear that Victoria popularized the tradition, which may have been known...
Should I hire a wedding officiant, or ask a friend to officiate my wedding?
The first wedding I ever officiated was for family members, and it was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. The second wedding I officiated was for one of my oldest friends. After each ceremony, I felt like a minor celebrity myself. I'd made the magic...
How to get a marriage license in New York
To get a license to marry in the state of New York, you have to apply for it in person—both of you, as New York law limits the number of spouses to one. As of this writing, there are no other options. This can be done at the office of any town or city clerk in the...
Officiating your poly commitment ceremony
If you're in a polyamorous relationship, taking the next step is more complicated. Given that everything is a bit more complicated in a polycule, you may be uniquely prepared for this challenge. Marriage, as defined in the United States, is a legal relationship...